The last one to leave the nest. He has made it through & forcibly I might add. This young man has pushed every single button I could possibly have along the way to graduation. Evan finished his SR year with classes online. It was absolutely one of the most exhausting things this teenager has put me through. Many disagreements, many days of us butting heads, sleepless nights, hurt feelings, and shear threats with the help of his MOTHER and her friends, he graduated. I am forever; thankful for the friends I have whom treat my children like one of their own. Evan was even sent to GA with my friend, Teresa whom is a Professor to escape what was going on here and she assisted in forcing him to do homework.
He received his diploma however; he did not walk across the stage. He could have walked but, he had to ask permission. He told me that he didn’t want me to ask, so I didn’t. I wanted him to walk across the stage. He deserved to be there, he needed his moment to shine & hold his head up high. Truth is, I wanted my moment as a Mother too. Now that it has come and gone, I honestly get it. I get why he didn’t want to be there and I’m content with it. Evan has always been a passionate, sensitive and caring person. Truth is he was hurt & he didn’t want to give them the satisfaction of him having to ask for permission. I can’t quite put it into words but, if you knew my son, you would understand. When Evan is hurt, he retreats and he shuts down & becomes self destructive. Evan is definitely his mothers son. He is so much fun yet he is stubborn and head strong and likes a good fight.
How can I even begin to describe Evan? He’s a challenge in every single way. He is unique and spectacular. I am fine with Evan not being like everyone else and not following the path laid down before him, it’s who he is. He needs to make a new path no one has ever traveled. He is a daredevil who believes he is invincible. He would absolutely try anything once. He is the life of the party and you can’t help but smile when he is around. He loves EVERYONE until they do something to him or someone he loves. He is loyal. Evan will cuddle a baby, play with little kids, bond with anyone less fortunate than he, lead anyone with limitations for he knows we are all equal, hang with people his own age, visit those older & help the elderly cross the Street. He is a young man who does not recognize AGE. Evan is gifted with that ability. Evan loves being in the water and on the beach. He is naturally good at everything & I mean everything. I love to hear him sing but, my joy is watching him dance. He is loud in everything he does (he gets that from me too). He has the heart and courage of a lion. Who knew my second child would be the light the world needed, the light I needed?
When Evan was little, he was into everything. He was always on the go and always wanted to do everything. He would actually go until he just fell asleep in all sorts of positions. This kid talked in his sleep and he also sleep walked. I believe he never had an OFF button. As a child he was obsessed with power rangers, being outside and just having fun. He played many sports over the years. Tennis, basketball, swim, baseball, football, wrestling and was even the mascot. He loved going to camp and being around animals. If he could bring them all home he would have. He had an interest in plays at the Youth Civic Theater at the Library and continued doing this throughout HS and participated in HS plays. I truly believe this is where he belongs. Evan is naturally athletic and most things come with ease to him. There is something about him being on stage that just has me in awe. He has this charm about him and it just sets him apart from others.
At the end of the day, I have to step back and let him find his way. That’s what I do … I step back and let Evan be Evan. He is the baby, he is the last one I get to experience things with. I won’t see another child graduate, he completed the circle. My son has received his diploma and I am so very proud of him for staying the course! Son you are my second born, while you weren’t the first to make me a mother, you made me a better one.
Evan and I have a wonderful relationship & I am blessed because of it. I have much advice to give; but, no one has that kind of time. Instead I leave you with this. You are special, you aren’t suppose to be like everyone else & I encourage you to be you! Continue with your amazing qualities while growing. In growing remember age is just a number & things are just that, things. Eventually, you have to find something to focus on, put all your heart and soul into and use everything you were taught to use to make it work. Dedication and determination while being a good human being is all you need son. Take care of your body you only have one.
“Forever Young” by Greg Dwyer
Its ambiguous as to whether he’s a figment of the boys imagination, or the boys a figment of his, but in truth they’re the same person at different ages.” – Greg Dwyer
I know the video is long but, I made this for his graduation. Enjoy if you have time. It’s 18 years of many wonderful events, and memories with Evan. I can honestly say that it is wonderful to watch it and remember the bonds of his youth. It is also tough to see the change in people, including those who are no longer with us today. The only guarantee in life is change.