Evan graduates HS

The last one to leave the nest.  He has made it through & forcibly I might add.  This young man has pushed every single button I could possibly have along the way to graduation.  Evan finished his  SR year with classes online.   It was absolutely one of the most exhausting things this teenager has put me through.  Many disagreements, many days of us butting heads, sleepless nights, hurt feelings, and shear threats with the help of his MOTHER and her friends, he graduated.  I am forever; thankful for the friends I have whom treat my children like one of their own.  Evan was even sent to GA with my friend, Teresa whom is a Professor to escape what was going on here and she assisted in forcing him to do homework.

He received his diploma however; he did not walk across the stage.  He could have walked but, he had to ask permission.  He told me that he didn’t want me to ask, so I didn’t.  I wanted him to walk across the stage.  He deserved to be there, he needed his moment to shine & hold his head up high.  Truth is, I wanted my moment as a Mother too.  Now that it has come and gone, I honestly get it.  I get why he didn’t want to be there and I’m content with it.   Evan has always been a passionate, sensitive and caring person.  Truth is he was hurt & he didn’t want to give them the satisfaction of him having to ask for permission.  I can’t quite put it into words but, if you knew my son, you would understand.  When Evan is hurt, he retreats and he shuts down & becomes self destructive.  Evan is definitely his mothers son.  He is so much fun yet he is stubborn and head strong and likes a good fight.

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How can I even begin to describe Evan?  He’s a challenge in every single way.  He is unique and spectacular.  I am fine with Evan not being like everyone else and not following the path laid down before him, it’s who he is.  He needs to make a new path no one has ever traveled.  He is a daredevil who believes he is invincible.  He would absolutely try anything once.  He is the life of the party and you can’t help but smile when he is around.  He loves EVERYONE until they do something to him or someone he loves.  He is loyal.  Evan will cuddle a baby, play with little kids, bond with anyone less fortunate than he, lead anyone with limitations for he knows we are all equal, hang with people his own age, visit those older & help the elderly cross the Street.  He is a young man who does not recognize AGE.  Evan is gifted with that ability.  Evan loves being in the water and on the beach.  He is naturally good at everything & I mean everything.  I love to hear him sing but, my joy is watching him dance.  He is loud in everything he does (he gets that from me too).  He has the heart and courage of a lion.  Who knew my second child would be the light the world needed, the light I needed?

When Evan was little, he was into everything.  He was always on the go and always wanted to do everything.  He would actually go until he just fell asleep in all sorts of positions.  This kid talked in his sleep and he also sleep walked.  I believe he never had an OFF button.  As a child he was obsessed with power rangers, being outside and just having fun.  He played many sports over the years.  Tennis, basketball, swim, baseball, football, wrestling and was even the mascot.  He loved going to camp and being around animals.  If he could bring them all home he would have.  He had an interest in plays at the Youth Civic Theater at the Library and continued doing this throughout HS and participated in HS plays.  I truly believe this is where he belongs.  Evan is naturally athletic and most things come with ease to him.  There is something about him being on stage that just has me in awe.  He has this charm about him and it just sets him apart from others.

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At the end of the day, I have to step back and let him find his way.  That’s what I do … I step back and let Evan be Evan.  He is the baby, he is the last one I get to experience things with.  I won’t see another child graduate, he completed the circle.  My son has received his diploma and I am so very proud of him for staying the course!  Son you are my second born, while you weren’t the first to make me a mother, you made me a better one.

Evan and I have a wonderful relationship & I am blessed because of it.  I have much advice to give; but, no one has that kind of time.   Instead I leave you with this.  You are special, you aren’t suppose to be like everyone else & I encourage you to be you!  Continue with your amazing qualities while growing.  In growing remember age is just a number & things are just that, things.  Eventually, you have to find something to focus on, put all your heart and soul into and use everything you were taught to use to make it work.  Dedication and determination while being a good human being is all you need son.  Take care of your body you only have one.

 

“Forever Young” by Greg Dwyer

Its ambiguous as to whether he’s a figment of the boys imagination, or the boys a figment of his, but in truth they’re the same person at different ages.” – Greg Dwyer

I know the video is long but, I made this for his graduation.  Enjoy if you have time.  It’s 18 years of many wonderful events, and memories with Evan.  I can honestly say that it is wonderful to watch it and remember the bonds of his youth.  It is also tough to see the change in people, including those who are no longer with us today.  The only guarantee in life is change.

Eian graduates HS

I have been mentally preparing myself for this moment since my son became a teenager.  I have listened to others along the way say how difficult emotionally it was for them to realize their child was graduating.  That they would leave the home and go out into the world and do their own thing.  Over the years, I made sure I was there every step of the way, for each and every milestone.  Going into class with you and watching you learn and make friends and see how the Teachers loved you, is something irreplaceable.  You were very popular in school and always always had the girls chasing after you.  Some of the best memories I have are from your youngest years in school.  The bonds and friendships that you made with classmates, Teachers and other parents.  I truly felt that when this day came, I would not be able to contain myself or my tears.  I mean you are my first born child.  Eian, you taught me everything about being a mother.  Eian was actually an easy child, it was a smooth process until his teen years anyways.  It’s kind of funny too because Eian is the child that I almost died giving birth to.  Who would have thought?

Eian has always been my story teller.  The one who liked to pull pranks and scare people.  Trust me over the years he has pulled c2         some pranks that have not made me happy.  The kid has almost caused me to have a stroke many a times with these pranks.  As a child he always wanted another friend with him & he was always pretty private.  He has a giving heart but, he chooses not to let others know about it.  He has a taste for the finer things in life and yet he is simple.  He is a soft and genuine young man.  He is rational & gentle yet has the strength of a warrior.  He was not built for giving up on anything.  He has a dumb look that always makes me chuckle and he doesn’t even realize he is doing it.  His snicker is well just that a snicker, not a laugh and it’s cute.  He is quiet yet social.  He wanted to play and be a part of every sport possible.  You can’t play everything.  He played basketball, soccer, was a fantastic swimmer!!  He was a strong football & baseball player for both Frankfort & Clinton Prairie.  He is naturally skilled athletically.  Rest assured – I was his biggest fan!!!!  We had the rowdiest section in the stands – my friends and his friends made it LOUD & Eian never disappointed the crowd.

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One thing you may not know about Eian is his faithfulness.  Eian keeps his feelings to himself and sometimes he just likes to stir the pot for fun.  However; question his faith in God and you will see just how loyal in it he is.  He remembers me reading the bible to him and I am pleased to share our love of Lord together.

 

He has a very sick sense of humor and thinks it’s hilarious to talk about poop and farting.He likes to wear hats, go fishing, drink beer and play games on XBox, Playstation and or whatever it is he plays now.  Eian is naturally good at everything he does.  I remember the first time we went ice skating.  I could barely keep my balance & he and his brother both were skating backwards before I made it 1/4 of the way around the rink.  He was a fantastic swimmer in school and yet he doesn’t really like being in the water.  He loves listening to music and is a country boy at heart.  He didn’t always want to do his homework nor attend classes but, he managed to figure it out.  He also always says to me, “mom why didn’t you let me play hockey, I would have been great at hockey”?

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As a child he was obsessed with fire fighting and the Military.  When he was little he wore a fire uniform & road around on a fire truck power wheel, his Grandpa Bill even installed a pole in his garage that you could access from the loft just so they could slide down the pole.  He loved airplanes and talked about the air force non stopped.  When our family friend Tim Simpson joined the Army Eian began talking about the Army.  Our Bradford family friends whom we were very close with, moved from state to state due to different duty stations & I think that finalized his thoughts of where he wanted to be in the Military.  He goes to bootcamp soon after graduation to become a soldier.  He has been very patriotic and I have no doubt he will excel in whatever he chooses to do.2014 Open House Front Army Invitation

One of his favorite movies if the 5th Quarter.

Who would have thought my first born would be so perfect.  I got to experience motherhood for the first time with you.  You were my first in it all.  Eian and I have a special bond that can never be broken.  I have many words of advice but, no one has time for all that.  So, I’ll leave you with just a few.  Set your goals high, don’t allow anyone including yourself tell you there is anything you can’t do.  The only limitations you have are yourself.  Dedication and determination while being a good human being is all you need son.  Take care of your body you only have one.

Here is his graduation video.  If you have time to watch, enjoy.  It gives you an overview of his 18 years with myself and all his friends and family along the way.